Content-Based Considerations: Navigating Sensitive Topics

Let’s face it: some topics are too mature for young minds. However, how do we know where to draw the line? Let us break down some common sensitive content areas and discuss how to approach them.

Violence and Disturbing Content

We all want our children to grow up in a safe and nurturing environment. However, the reality is that violence exists in the world and often finds its way into books. Violence can take many forms, from fairy tales with wicked witches to young adult novels with intense battle scenes.

• Graphic depictions: Young children, especially, are very literal. They may not be able to distinguish between fantasy and reality, so graphic descriptions of violence can be alarming. Imagine a 5-year-old reading about a character being brutally murdered. This could lead to nightmares, anxiety, and even a skewed perception of the world.
• Normalization of violence: Repeated exposure to violence in books can desensitize children to its consequences. They may begin to see aggression as a standard or acceptable way to solve problems. Studies have shown a correlation between media violence and aggressive behavior in children. One study published in the Journal of Abnormal Child Psychology found that children who watched violent television shows were more likely to engage in aggressive behavior themselves.
• Age-related recommendations: As children mature, they develop a greater capacity to understand complex themes and handle more intense content. Common Sense Media provides excellent age-based ratings and reviews to help you make informed decisions. For example, they might recommend a book with mild fantasy violence for an 8-year-old, while a book with more realistic or graphic violence might be deemed appropriate for a 14-year-old.

Sexual Content

Navigating sexual content in books can be particularly tricky. We want our children to develop a healthy understanding of sexuality, but we also want to protect their innocence.

• Explicit descriptions: Books that contain explicit descriptions of sexual acts are inappropriate for young children. Such content can be confusing, overwhelming, and even frightening for them. It is important to remember that children develop at different paces, so what is appropriate for one 12-year-old might not be suitable for another.
• Premature exposure: Introducing sexual themes too early can disrupt a child’s natural development. They may not have the cognitive or emotional maturity to process such information healthily. The American Academy of Pediatrics recommends that parents talk to their children about sex in an age-appropriate way, starting in early childhood. Books can be a helpful tool in these conversations but choosing them carefully is essential.
• Healthy sexual development: As children reach adolescence, they naturally become more curious about sex. Books can provide accurate information and promote healthy attitudes about sexuality. Look for books that address topics like consent, respect, and healthy relationships.

Profanity and Offensive Language

Words matter. The language our children are exposed to can influence their speech patterns and understanding of social norms.

• Impact on language development: Young children are like sponges, absorbing everything they hear. If they are constantly exposed to profanity in books, they are likelier to use those words. This can lead to problems at school, with friends, and even within the family.
• Social implications: Profanity can be offensive and hurtful, even if not directed at anyone. Children need to learn that words have power, and that using offensive language can have negative consequences.
• Contextual considerations: While we generally want to avoid books with excessive profanity, there may be times when it is used in a way that serves a literary purpose. For example, a book about historical figures might include some period-appropriate language considered offensive today. In these cases, it is essential to use your judgment and consider the book’s overall message.

Substance Abuse and Risky Behaviors

Books often reflect the realities of life, both good and bad. This can include depictions of substance abuse, risky behaviors, and other challenging topics.

• The glamorization of harmful behaviors: Some books may glamorize or normalize behaviors like drug use, underage drinking, or reckless driving. This can send the wrong message to children, making them more likely to engage in these activities themselves. A study by the National Institute on Drug Abuse found that teenagers who saw smoking depicted positively in movies were more likely to start smoking themselves.
• Peer pressure: Many books explore the theme of peer pressure, which can influence children’s behavior. It is important to choose books that portray the negative consequences of succumbing to peer pressure and that empower children to make their own choices.
• Encouraging open communication: Books that address sensitive topics like substance abuse can provide an opportunity to start conversations with your children. Use these books as a springboard to discuss your family’s values, the dangers of risky behaviors, and the importance of making healthy choices.