Before the Move: Preparing Your Child for a New Beginning

When we moved across the country when she was five, I told Sophie we were heading on a grand adventure to a magical land filled with talking animals and ice cream trees. I instilled excitement in her, even though reality didn’t match my fantasy (sadly, there weren’t talking squirrels).

Open Communication: The Key To Navigating the Move

Honesty and age-appropriate explanations are essential. We found that involving our children in the conversation, rather than simply announcing the decision, made a difference.

• For younger children, keep it simple: “We’re moving to a new house, and you’ll have an extra room!”
• Older children can handle more details. For instance, you can explain the reasons for the move, whether for a better job, a larger house, or simply a change of scenery. You can also discuss the new school they will be attending, the potential opportunities in the new neighborhood, and how the move can be a chance for a fresh start. Encourage questions and address concerns honestly. “Will I still see my friends?” “What will my new school be like?” These are valid questions that deserve thoughtful answers.
• Manage expectations. Avoid painting an overly rosy picture. Acknowledge that while the change of place will be exciting, adjusting will also take time.
  
  

Involving Your Child in the Process

Children crave control, especially when faced with significant change. Giving them a sense of ownership in the moving process can significantly reduce their anxiety.

• Let them pack their favorite toys. This will give them a sense of responsibility and allow them to keep a piece of their old life close.
• Create a moving “to-do” list together. Checking off tasks as you go visually represents progress and helps them feel involved.
• Make a memory book. Gather photos, drawings, and mementos from your current home and create a scrapbook together. This tangible reminder of happy memories can comfort during transition.
  
  

Addressing Fears and Anxiety

Moving can trigger various emotions, from fear of the unknown to sadness about leaving friends behind. Validating these feelings is crucial.

• “It’s okay to feel disappointed about leaving your friends. It’s difficult to say goodbye.”
• Role-playing can help children practice coping mechanisms. “What would you say if someone asked about your old school?”
• Books and movies about moving can spark conversations and normalize feelings. “Remember that character in the book? They felt scared, too, but they made amazing new friends!”